How Rude?
Why so rude, dear?
When I was still deciding on my next topic to write an article, I encountered some unwanted situations back at my home.
The journey of life is always unpredictable, one can never know what turn it will take while going through it, one can never assess the situation coming to them next second, one can never outweigh the experience of lifetime with what go wrong the very next moment, one can never be alert at the drop of hat despite being there…and there are much more than expected things that can aptly say that the life is a good teacher and a bad instructor.
With browsing and scrolling through the monitor of life at our fingertips on the keypad to control our actions, we are too novice to continue the journey as planned.
So, to deal with all the wrongs that come our way, we turn to circumstances to behave rudely; this is our way of acting indifferently towards all other adverse things.
Starting with the smallest incidents that reflect your rudeness, even when there is no fault on the other side, I am presenting some of them here.
- At the top of the list are our respected political leaders, who are humble and polite as hell when they are contestants. Once they win, they don’t even pretend to deliver the bare minimum of what they had promised before the poll. This is the most severe case of rudeness by the people who are supposedly selected to serve the people.
- Top bureaucrats are selected after a rigorous selection process and extremely tough interviews. If you look at their exam papers and interviews, they present themselves as warriors of social service, adopting a policy of zero tolerance towards corruption. And the reality is that most of them are going against it to prove this otherwise wrong. Isn’t it rude behavior to go against what you should be and what you are doing in reality?
- Educational institutions are established with a vision and mission to make education available to all without any discrimination. What they do indeed is pure business by making education too dear to the common people. Isn’t it sheer rudeness?
- Big corporations where common people work tirelessly, and their bosses force employees to work over 70 hours a week, thus unreasonably exploiting them and disregarding their well-being. Then they pay them peanuts for their services. Isn’t it rude behavior to the working class?
- Earlier, we had spanking virtuous doctors to tend our physical health; nowadays, we have these big hospital chains where patients are treated like milking cattle. Isn’t it rude to humanity?
- In our evolution, we owe the maximum to our scientists, whose inventions made our lives easier. And then we are facing an extinction threat to our planet itself because of the warfare invented by the same people. Isn’t it rude to their profession?
- To manage and maintain our lives, we require the services of people, like plumbers, masons, electricians, laborers, carpenters, hawkers, mechanics, barbers, cobblers, milkmen, house-helps, sweepers, tailors, to name a few. These people often don’t belong to the educated category, but without them, we can’t proceed. Isn’t it our rudeness to pay them so little for their services?
- Some professions, such as teaching, nursing, and pharmacy, require extra empathetic behavior. What if they don’t behave as per the situation? Isn’t it rude on their part for their service that needs a gentle and humanistic touch?
- Many affluent people who own businesses hire people from very mediocre backgrounds, and then they intentionally pay them too little, resulting in their rude behavior toward their clients.
While navigating through different scenes in our daily routine, we find many instances of unruly behavior from unexpected quarters.
Rude behavior forces us to rethink our perceptions of the people who render certain services. Either we try to be self-reliant or we ditch the entire idea; either way, it drains us and sometimes propels us to behave rudely.
Acting rudely towards others without any reason, such as lamenting over their situations or showing disrespect to those who ask for help, is inappropriate behavior. It is needed to recognize what is right when dealing with challenging situations and to treat others with kindness and respect.
Rudeness is contagious
Like courtesy begets courtesy, every emotional reaction sees the same fate, whether it is affection, respect, mutual understanding, pride, anger, hate, ranting, murmuring, insolence or any other extreme sentiment.
The most interesting thing is that negative emotions travel faster than positive ones leading to an unexpected chain of reactions involving several people.
Earlier, while facing disrespect from anyone, I reciprocated the same to the person treating me badly, but the moment I realised that it is draining my mental peace, I started working on it, trying to calm myself and never giving up to the urge to reply in the same way, maybe this practice is akin to ‘Gandhism’, but it is still effective.
So, here is genuine advice for all my readers. It’s hard to resist the temptations to argue with those disrespecting you, and the sooner you realise that by not reacting in the same way, you are actually helping yourself, protecting your mental health, thus making the person on the other end retrospect their actions.
Rude behavior is so subjective, bro.
Rude behavior is a reminder that respect is subjective and a choice we can all make.
Disrespectful behavior highlights a problematic approach to take on simple-looking uncalled situations in one’s life. One can behave regressive and sometimes aggressively in stimulating circumstances, only to repent once everything is over.
Rudeness
It’s important to remember that rudeness can be directed not only at others but also towards ourselves. Sometimes, in our quest to do good, we ignore our own welfare. Here is a reminder that if you focus solely on helping others while disregarding yourself, you may be harming yourself in the long run. This is another level of rudeness, and the victim is you.
So, never treat yourself badly in the first place as charity begins at home.
Then don’t be overwhelmed at the tiniest moment of an unpleasant turn of events, instead try to calm down and wait till everything becomes normal.
Remember, ‘every action begets exactly the opposite reaction, and in due course you are letting yourself be affected as well.
Remember, every action creates an equal and opposite reaction, and in time, you allow yourself to be affected by these actions as well. This cycle doesn’t stop here; it leads to an endless chain of reactions, producing unnecessary ripples both within you and in your surroundings in no time at all.